Sunday, January 8, 2017

What I Learned, What I'm Thankful For, and What I'd Like to Forget... 2016


You know, I almost didn’t make it this year.   I try every year to get this written by the first week of January, and as I sit down right now, I’ve only got a couple of hours left.   For my friends not on the west coast, I won’t make it.   Hell, if this takes me as long as it normally does, I’m not going to make it even here on the West Coast.   But it’ll be close.  

So, with the usual Rush – Different Stages Live 3-Disc set playing in the background, allow me to regale you as best I can with What I Learned, What I’m Thankful For, and What I’d Like to Forget About the year that was 2016.  

I’m thankful that I was back coaching this year, and that I’ll be doing it again in the year to come.   We finished first in the regular season, and then got a little unlucky with injuries in the playoffs and were knocked out in the semifinals.   I remember last year when I was sitting here writing this, I said something along the lines of “Oh, I won’t be able to do it full-time…”  Yeah, that wasn’t the case.  I spent my usual 8-hour days at the ballpark scouting other teams, and driving like a maniac from work to practice multiple days a week.  I seriously just don’t know how to do coaching as a part-time gig.   I have to go full bore on it. 

I’m thankful that we lost no animals again this year.   It was touch and go with Kharma for a while, when it looked like she had a stroke or something, but she seems to have made a complete recovery.  

I’d like to forget that I can’t say the same thing I’ve said for the previous two years, that we hadn’t lost a family member either.  Unfortunately Sara lost both her Dad and her Uncle in a brutal 10-day stretch in the fall.  

I’m thankful that for yet another year, my Dad has used his overwhelming fear of death to once again stay alive.  He is a frail shell of the man that many of you knew when I was younger, even just a few years ago before my mom passed.  But he’s still stumbling around.  

I learned how to make these amazing salted caramel bar cookies this year.   So amazingly yummy. 

I’m thankful for the fact that I was able to cater the desserts for a wedding this year.  50 cheesecakes and 8-dozen cookies was challenging but fun.  But the real challenge was transporting them 10 miles away in a tiny car in the rain. 

I’d like to forget the car troubles that we had this year.  Sara’s van went kaput early in the year.  The other van that we had as a backup locked up on us and wasn’t able to be used.  We ended up trading both of those and a couple hundred bucks for a Honda Accord that turned into a money suck, so I parked it and plopped down the money to fix my old Ford ZX2, and am back to driving that full-time again.   Sara’s driving the Lincoln.  But seriously, having nothing but 20+ year old cars, all with a ton of miles or needing a bunch of work, and no way to get out of that rut is seriously stressful.   I just want us to have a couple of cars that we could go at least a couple of years without needing to dump a ton of money into them. 

I’m thankful for the fact that we have ANY cars, and that they are mostly reliable. 

I’d like to forget how little writing I did this year.   I say that most years, but it really is such a therapeutic tool for me that I need to do more of it.

I’m thankful that for the first time in a few years, Sara was able to register a resounding win vs. the yard.  I mean, the amount of stuff that she did this year is staggering.  Not only was the garden grown considerably, but an arbor went up, a pond with a fountain went in, the firepit was set up, seriously, this was a big year for her vs. the yard. 

I’m thankful for the dozens of fish that were given to us for free to stock the pond with. 

I learned that you have to watch out when putting fish into that new environment, because changing out the water too fast can kill them off.  

I’m thankful we learned that lesson quick enough that we only lost a couple of fish, and all the rest are still doing great. 

I generally steer clear of politics in these, because I have friends from all over the map when it comes to political beliefs.  So while I’d like to forget that Donald Freaking Trump is set to become President, what I’d really like to forget is that the first thing the new Senate is doing is dismantling my health care (which would almost be forgivable if they had ANY clue what they wanted to replace it with, other than “lining the pockets of rich people”), defunding Planned Parenthood (because 3% of their non-Federal funding goes to abortion services that the majority of the country approves of), and attempting to eliminate ethical oversite only to have it blow up in their face so quickly that they had to backtrack.  If the first week is any indication of the next four years, I might actually be happier that my lack of health care will kill me off that much quicker.   I, unlike my father, do not fear death, I only fear not doing enough with my life. 

I’m thankful that you allow me one political rant, and are hopefully still reading. 

I learned more about marijuana in the past year than most people will learn in their lives.   I’ve never smoked it and never will.   I’ve never ingested an edible, and won’t do so until some point in my life when I become so ill or pain-ridden that I need it just to make myself comfortable until death.   But because my girlfriend has a job in that industry, as well as running her own business of edibles, I have a whole lot of knowledge that I never thought I’d have. 

I’d like to forget that Lane County decided that shutting my site in the mountains down to one day a week was a good idea.  As I’ve said many times, I could have worked up there forever if I couldn’t land a full-time gig.  I loved that drive three days a week.  Alas, now I’m only making it one day a week, and filling in elsewhere as needed.  It is even less sustainable than it was in the past, and 2017 will bring a change one way or another, either to full-time with the County, or onwards and upwards to something else. 

I’m very thankful for the new people that 2016 brought into my life.  There are always more of you than I can think of off the top of my head, so I don’t choose to name you, for fear of forgetting some of you.  I will try to tag some of you if I can figure out how to do that again. 

I’d like to forget once again how shitty Facebook’s note system is now in that it doesn’t allow for easy tagging anymore.  I will most likely just use my phone to do it after the fact, but it used to be much, much easier. 

Once again this year, Max would like to announce that he’s thankful for my warm lap while I’m typing this out. 

I’d like to forget that keeping Max in my lap now hurts my hips a lot more than it used to. 

I’m thankful for winning the year end tournament at “The Rob” this year.  Normally that’s the worst tournament of the year for me, but every five years, I have eked out a win. 

I learned a few new dishes for the year end tournament this year, with the big winners being the Pumpkin Bisque with Smoked Gouda, the Bacon Date and Manchego Quesadillas, and the really tasty Mandarin Orange Bread. 

I’m thankful that once again I managed 26 courses for 22 people out of my little galley kitchen.   I’m also thankful for the wonderful help provided by a few people this year, which makes my job much easier. 

I’m quite thankful that we have a second refrigerator now, which makes prep work and storage sooooo much easier. 

I’m thankful that I was able to play golf this year.   Only once, but it was so nice to actually be able to get back on the golf course for the first time in almost two years.  

I’d like to forget that for the second year in a row, I didn’t read as much as I should have.  I’d like to remedy that in 2017. 

I’d also like to forget that once again I didn’t buy any art this year.   I miss the years in my youth when I spent $1000 or more a year on art. 

I’m thankful that I had a point in my life that I could afford to spend that much on art, and that I have a house full of it now because of it. 

I learned in the past few weeks how woefully unprepared Eugene is for an actual winter.  

I’m thankful for Tony Kornheiser’s podcast.  Or, as Sara refers to him, “The angry old guy” podcast. 

I’ve said it for a few years now, but I’m really thankful that I live in what is essentially the Golden Age of Television.  Because movies have gotten so expensive (and because Sara hates going to the movie theater), television is a greater and greater part of my entertainment budget.  (Caveat: I’d like to forget how much I spend on satellite TV every month).  As always, I try to list a few new series that I enjoyed in the previous year.  Obviously there are all the great ones that I’ve listed in years past, but the new shows I’m thankful for: Luke Cage, Sense8, This is Us, Outsiders, Atlanta, Blunt Talk, Humans, Jericho (not the old CBS apocalypse one), Underground, Witnesses, Shades of Blue. 

I’m thankful that MTV didn’t totally screw up Shannara, although I’ll be curious to see what they do with Season 2, since the book was completely covered in Season 1. 

I’d like to forget that CBS cancelled Limitless (a really amazing show that you should enjoy on Netflix) after only one season, which is about as stupid as Fox continually ordering HUGE budget Sci-Fi shows only to immediately cancel them (Terra Nova, Almost Human, Minority Report) because they lose money the first year. 

I’m thankful that despite not having a minivan this year, we were still able to do our “glamping” trip over Labor Day weekend, and once again I survived the 4 ½ days without access to my phone, internet, or any real technology. 

I’d like to forget that I basically blew off my health this year.  

I’d like to forget that my anxiety and depression were worse this year than last.

I’m thankful that they were still better than the couple of years before that.   

I’m thankful for Sara talking me into allowing her to bring ferrets into our house.  They were always one of the animals that I thought “never”.   But she always wanted them, so I relented when she said that there were some locally that needed to be rescued.   Now I’m more reluctant to get rid of them than she is. 

I’d like to forget that there’s not nearly enough “I Learned” in the blog this year.  I feel way too stagnant, which is partly due to the whole anxiety/depression thing, but also just me being lazy.  I hope that 2017 allows me to learn more. 

I’m thankful that Sara and I continued our non-jinxed vacation streak this year.   We got out of town a couple of times without anything major befalling us. 

I’m thankful for naps.  And for my very comfy bed that I’m able to take them on. 

I’m thankful for trips to the park down from the Rose Garden that Sara and I go to feed the ducks, geese and seagulls at.  Seriously, anytime you’re having a rough day, get a loaf of bread and go be surrounded by ducks for 20 minutes.  Almost impossible to not have it lift your spirits. 

I learned just how much I love nuts in my cookies now.  When I was younger, I hated nuts and coconut, both the flavor and the texture.  Now, I love both of them so much.  Chocolate Chip cookies = yum.  Chocolate Chip and Pecan cookies = foodgasm. 

I’d like to forget how many people were lost in 2016.   I’d also like to forget the people who just chalk it up as being no more significant than any other year.   Really?   Just sports:  Muhammad Ali, the greatest boxer of all time; Arnold Palmer, one of the three greatest golfers of all time; Gordie Howe, one of the two greatest hockey players of all time.  It wasn’t the quantity, it was the quality.  Across the board, from Prince to Bowie to Merle Haggard to Gene Wilder to Elie Wiesel to Carrie Fisher.  We lost more cultural icons and people that would rate as some of the greatest ever in their professions than any year I can remember.  

I’m thankful for Alec Baldwin on SNL.

I learned that Hwy 20, heading out of Newport, Oregon, is the longest road in the country, going over 3300 miles to Boston, Mass.  Someday, Joann, I’m going to drive the whole thing and come visit you. 

I’d like to forget that there is sooooo, soooo much hate in the world right now.  Seriously, people, it’s just not worth it.  No one, anywhere, for any reason is worth your hate.  And certainly no one is worth your hate simply because they choose to live their lives in a way that is different than yours, or because they look different than you do.  This is why we can’t have nice things, world. 

I’m thankful for Otter Mondays.

I’d like to forget that for the most part, movies suck now.   That being said, I’m very thankful for Arrival, Hell or High Water, Moonlight, and a few other really awesome ones this year. 

I didn’t learn many new cheesecake flavors this year, but I did have one clear winner for best new flavor: Coffee Cake Cheesecake. 

I’m thankful for winning two free nights at Spirit Mountain from the Salem Art Fair.

I’d like to forget that we never found a day that worked in both our schedules to use them, and by the time we tried to give them away, there were no rooms available for anyone else to use. 

I learned that a “murmuration” of starlings is one of the coolest things ever.   Seriously, go to YouTube and type that in.   You’ll be amazed. 

I’m thankful that Linus started making some regular visits to “The Rob” again this year.

I’m thankful that the U.S. Justice Department is planning on no longer using private prisons.  Our prison system is screwed up so bad in this country that it needs a systematic overhaul, but this is a good first step.

I’m thankful that Sara and I have now been together for nearly 7 years.  No one else has ever come close to putting up with me for that long.  

I’m thankful that once again I got to watch the wonderful experience that is seeing Sara at the County Fair, petting the goats.   She loves them, and they all swarm to her.  

I’d like to forget that my planned trip to California didn’t work out this year due to car troubles, and finances.   But I do hope to get down there sometime in the relatively near future, and see some old friends. 

I learned there are some really, really big dragonflies up around my site in McKenzie Bridge.  I mean, like the size of my hand.   Big. 

I learned that my three most used words on Facebook are “Love Good Cookies”.   Well, don’t we all. 

I’d like to forget that for the first time in years, the words aren’t coming nearly as easily in this blog as they have in years past. 

I learned that once again, my blog is read more in Russia than anywhere else in the world outside of the U.S.   And once again, Comrades, I’ll do my best to write more in 2017. 

I’m thankful for watching Sara blow bubbles on the beach.   Or, to put it more accurately, for watching Sara hold the wand, and letting the wind blow bubbles for her on the beach. 

I learned that one of the truly amazing things you can buy on the internet is a box of a thousand live ladybugs for your garden.  And let me tell you, cutting open the bag and letting them loose is truly a cool experience.   I couldn’t stop laughing.  They are everywhere.   And then they all disappear and none of them stay in your garden that you were hoping to have them help out with.   But still, it’s worth the money just to have a thousand ladybugs flying around you. 

I learned that the show Bob’s Burgers was originally supposed to be about cannibals.  But Fox changed it so that it only used it as a hoax in the first episode.   But it really was supposed to be about them using the bodies from the mortuary next door to turn into burgers.   That would have been a way cooler show.  

I’m thankful for the I Love You pun wars waged online between Sara and I.

I’m thankful for being able to walk around Delta Ponds and see the baby ducks in the spring.  

As I’m writing this, I’m seeing that there’s so much more that I’m thankful for this past year than things I’d like to forget.   I’ve had years where that was reversed.   So, let me just say that I’m thankful for being thankful. 

I’m thankful for the magnets on the fridge that allow me to put sappy sayings on there regularly.

I learned that mimicking baby photos by recreating them with your pets is hilarious.  Sara made a calendar by taking photos of her sister and newborn niece and recreating them with our animals.   The results were wonderful. 

I’d like to forget that this blog is considerably shorter this year than it has been in the past, but I guess 2016 was just a little more boring than usual.   Or else my memory is not nearly as strong as it has been in the past. 

So, I’d like to wrap this up by saying that I’m extremely thankful for all of you who have made it this far.  I’m thankful for all of my friends more than anything else in this world.  You are all the best part of me, and truly what makes my life worth living.   I hope to see you, hear from you, chat/text with you, write you, whatever, in the next year.   I miss seeing you more than I say, and am always thrilled to hear from you.   Thank you for a great year, and here’s hoping that 2017 is even better for all of us.  I love you all.